So you just got married? It’s not over.
Some practical advice to keep your life moving forward. Don’t become stale.
Remember how you won your woman? Keep doing that stuff.
A Few Helpful Steps
On your honeymoon? Maybe you just got back? You got this, chief. (Never too soon to read this post).
Step 1 Don’t stop pursuing your bride. The moment you do that you are in all sorts of trouble. Everybody will become emotional. Keep focusing on her and keep her wants and needs as your first priority.
Step 2 Remember, you have some life responsibilities now. You cannot pass the buck to someone else. You’re the leader. No more sitting on the couch drinking coke and playing video games. We got rid of them back in the don’t list.
Step 3 Don’t go back to old habits now. You need to move forward in this relationship. Think of it like this: dating is the pre-game. The pre-game is fun, you are with your friends, you have a great time…but eventually, you go into the party. That is what marriage is. The party. That is where the fun really happens.
Step 4 You need to continue working hard on this relationship. You don’t want to lose your grip now. You’re a man. You got this. Start looking ahead and discuss with your wife some direction that you will be leading her towards. You don’t want to look back in 10 years and not be able to tell a difference in your life.
Step 5 The One Year Anniversary is coming soon. Remember that hotel you got on your honeymoon? Take her back there. Christmas is probably coming up. Keep these things in mind and continue being fun. Keep your marriage light and fun. There will be plenty of issues coming around the corner. Light and fun is the way to go!
Step 6 Keep surprising her with stuff. Flowers, dates, etc. One thing not to surprise her with all your expectations. Don’t have lengthy expectations. Only have 4 or 5 and make sure she knows them, and ask her what hers are. Then focus on those. Don’t worry about anything else and nitpick everything about her. She is going to be much different from you.
Step 7 You may start getting corrected on stuff. Remember the expectations that you all ready talked through? Go back to those and re-work them. Keep in mind, she married you for a reason…probably not to hate you. She may be trying to help. Be humble and listen. You will want her to do the same if you have something to tell her some day, so you can teach her humility by practicing humility. Don’t be to proud to ignore the advice she may be trying to give you.
Ending Words of Advice
Keep your marriage as light as possible. There will be many serious things that happen…don’t add to that list.