Step 8: Engagement
How did you get here? I’m impressed. Let’s keep it short.
So you popped the question and now you’re engaged. Well done. That’s a man’s step. Now we’ll figure out what to do next.
Keep the engagement short. You don’t need a 2, 5, 15…year engagement. Short and sweet.
A Few Helpful Steps
Get a date on the books quickly, and then stick to it. Don’t draw this out and be a boy again.
Step 1 Have a date in mind when down on one knee. The reason for this is because everyone and their mother will ask you “When’s the date?” as soon as you tell them you’re engaged. It’s the most annoying question…be prepared to answer it with something. Even if it’s a year.
Step 2 “When’s the date?” “When’s the date!” Get used to hearing that. …and don’t delay the date. Unless someone dies, don’t delay the date. Don’t stress on the time, just choose and and move forward. If all fails, take your $50 and go to the court house. You’re getting married when you said you were!
Step 3 Don’t worry about offending people….because everyone is going to be offended by something. That’s the law of engagement. Ridiculous. If you worry about pleasing everyone, you are going to drive yourself crazy. So relax, but just be prepared for that.
Step 4 Keep up some fun stuff. Keep this engagement light and fun. Your fiancee will be getting stressed out, so it’s your job to think clearly, not with your emotions. Look ahead and see what’s coming, and keep planning dates and small fun surprises for her. You got this. Keep it light!
Step 5 Men, you are clear thinkers. She is an emotional thinker. Be there and be ready to think clearly. Help her under all circumstances. This is one season of your life: have fun, relax, help plan, and make good quality decisions. Because you are thinking with logic.
Step 6 You don’t need fancy things at your wedding…like a fountain full of gold, or fireworks, or a celebrity singer. My goodness. Focus on the important things. What makes a successful wedding day? That you are both married at the end. Keep your priorities in line when you’re planning.
Step 7 During your engagement, focus on one woman. Your fiancee. After your wedding, focus on one woman, your wife. Your mom is no longer your first woman. I don’t care what the world says, you don’t want your wife feeling that she has to measure up to your mother. You want her to believe she is already in first place. And she should be. You are not committing to your mom for the rest of your life, you’re committing to your fiancee!
Step 8 Don’t do something stupid during your bachelor party. You’re a man. Be a man. Don’t do that garbage that boys do the night before the wedding. As a matter of fact, if you don’t respect your fiancee in this way, I’d call the whole thing off right now. Do it. Be a man – focus on her, or leave her if you can’t.
Ending Words of Advice
Who are you focused on? Yourself or your woman? Engagement is a big step. Be a man and focus on her!