Step 2: Approaching Women
Assuming you worked hard on Step 1, this will be a cakewalk.
You\’re going to be approaching women? Hold up, not so fast champ. Read some advice first.
Have you ever been told “no” on anything? It wasn\’t that bad now…what are you worried about? Get some confidence.
A Few Helpful Steps
If you\’re going to be approaching women, you should put a few of these principles into practice to avoid looking like a creeper.
Step 1 Decide where you want to start approaching women and that will tell you what type of women you will be approaching and how. If you are in some type of bar or club, creeper may work for you. But you\’re not getting advice from me for a one-night hook up and that type of crap. We\’re talking about being a man and pursuing a woman for a reason. And that reason would be marriage. Not some quick tail – that\’s what boys do. It\’s time to be a man.
Step 2 If you are a boy, you can still use some of this advice, but it\’s more geared towards men. Have you decided where you want to meet women? Here are some options if Step 1 stumped you: a function, or a BBQ, or another type of function. You got this. Tell yourself you\’re awesome a few more times.
Step 3 So you see someone? Start making yourself known in subtle ways. If she is getting a drink, you just got thirsty. If she is across the room, find a reason to be on that side of the room. You get the idea? You want to be like a subliminal message. She should be noticing you in quick doses.
Step 4 If you\’re the type that just goes up and starts a conversation out of the blue, then why are you on this website? Don\’t get yourself known by doing dumb things that cause you to be the star of the show. But when you\’re ready to introduce yourself, don\’t worry about foolish pickup lines and scripts, you need to be honest. Break the communication bearer with a question anybody would ask. Like, “Who do you know here?” or “Can you pass me that?” If the function is boring, make a small joke. Calmly approach.
Step 5 Be smooth with your voice. Don\’t be nervous and shaky. Whats the worst that could happen? She says leave me alone? No worries, she isn\’t going to pull out a knife and stab you in the gut or something. And even if she did, brush it off, be a man. Just go into the situation thinking there is nothing to lose. And if you get rejected, who cares? You can just self-motivate later anyway.
Step 6 Be ready for some conversation questions. You don\’t want to run dry on the first three words. Ask questions like, “Where are you from?” and when she responds, respond to her answer. Say something like, “Oh, I heard it is really nice there, I bet you had fun growing up. What was a hobby you had when you were living there?” Be prepared to answer each question yourself, too. Ask her what she does, who she knows here, did you go to college, major, traveling, etc.
Step 7 During your response to each of her questions, answer the question you asked her. This way she doesn\’t have to lead the conversation if she doesn\’t want to. You do not want to put her on the spot. You need to lead. You are the man. You lead.
Ending Words of Advice
Be confident when you approach. At this stage, treat her like an equal, a friend. You\’ll have an opportunity to treat her like a princess and queen soon.